Sometimes we don’t notice how our habits prevent us from living a full life, breathing deeply, achieving what we want and maximizing our full potential.
And we are not talking about those bad habits that are considered generally accepted, such as smoking, alcohol, illegal substances and an unhealthy lifestyle .
Sometimes we ourselves do not notice how habitual actions spoil our mood and life in general. Today we will figure out what habits we need to part with without regret.
1. Habit is liked by everyone
Yes, yes! The habit of pleasing everyone and being ideal in everything is instilled in us in early childhood. Then we try to earn the attention of adults who, with their behavior, destroy the child’s psyche.
Parents expect maximum success from their child and make it clear that you can only love “for something.” Those children who have a stable habit of being liked may later suffer from perfectionism. But this does not mean doing everything perfectly. It means that a person cannot live peacefully until he brings everything to perfection. These thoughts do not give rest, forcing a person to be in constant stress.
Another consequence of childhood trauma is low self-esteem. If you constantly think about how to please others, you can forget yourself, your desires and dreams.
It is impossible to be good for everyone and to please everyone. Live without looking back, and the people you need will stay with you despite everything. Live your life, your dreams, go your own way. Then you will not have to regret the time spent aimlessly.
2. The habit of enduring
If you look closely at your surroundings, each of us will remember a person who constantly complains about his life, but does not change anything. Such people endure. For months, for years.
Such people tolerate unloved work, live with unloved people, tolerate insults, rudeness, assault. They tolerate. Why?
The habit of enduring is one of the most destructive. While a person endures what he does not like, his life is filled with negativity, suffering and worries. Constant stress, bad mood smoothly connect psychosomatic symptoms. Various diseases come into life. This is a path to nowhere. Or rather, to the abyss.
Stop feeling sorry! Stop putting up with it! You have one life, so live it to the fullest!
3. The habit of taking offense
This is another habit that poisons your life. A touchy person is perceived as toxic and problematic. Such a person is not invited to parties, some things are hidden from him. And how else, he will be offended!
A touchy person is a problem for his surroundings. You need to constantly control yourself around such people so as not to say too much and not to offend.
The habit of taking offense comes from low self-esteem, insecurity and excessive sensitivity. Of course, if we are not talking about selfish manipulation.
Stop taking offense over little things, work on your self-esteem, and then you will notice how your appearance in a company will not be accompanied by calm and tension.
4. The habit of looking for the guilty and condemning
This toxic behavior stems from the previous two reasons. A person who constantly looks for someone to blame simply does not know how to take responsibility for themselves and their lives.
It is worth understanding that everyone has the right to make mistakes. And this is normal. People tend to make mistakes, our life experience is built on this . If you constantly shift the blame from yourself to others, you will soon notice that your social circle is rapidly narrowing. No one wants to take responsibility for someone else’s actions.
Everyone lives the way they want. And that’s their right. If you don’t like someone meddling in your life, teaching and judging you, stop doing it yourself. We are different, and no one knows. How to live correctly.
Condemnation itself makes a person unhappy. A happy person will never offend or condemn another. Be positive and do your own thing, and let others live as they want. Try to learn to look at the world of people without condemning, but with understanding.
5. The habit of arguing
There are people who have two opinions – one is theirs, and the other is wrong. Such people always argue and prove their point of view. But if you think about it, this action is absolutely useless. If a person does not consider himself wrong, then you will not prove it to him, but will only bring yourself to a nervous breakdown.
By proving and arguing, you will not only not change anything, but you will also push people away from you. You don’t want to communicate with such people. Stop arguing and try to understand. This way you will spend less nerves and energy, and you will get more friends.
6. The habit of control
The habit of always being fully armed, controlling everyone and everything, gradually turns a normal person into a paranoid. Constant tension, thinking through every step can not only drive you into a rage, but also drive you into depression .
It is interesting that 60% of the things you try to control are completely beyond your control. Your total control will not change anything except your state.
Accept the fact that the world does not revolve around you alone. Everyone has their own life, their own truth and their own worldview. Let go of control and see how life becomes easier and simpler.
7. The habit of procrastinating
Do you often put things off “for later”? Treatment, changing an unloved job, important matters. Sometimes we just don’t have enough motivation to radically change our lives for the better. We constantly put things off and put them off.
Does it hurt somewhere on the right? It will go away on its own, I won’t go to the doctor. Did you like the girl? No, she is too good, I will confess to her later. Tired of work, because I deserve better? Well, they seem to pay, then I will send out my resume.
Sound familiar? And how long can this go on? A week? A month? Years.
In the end, we will not get a better life, but only health problems from a prolonged visit to the doctor, an unloved person next to us and a hated job.
You only have one life! Don’t put it off until later!